Can you forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting your life? Why is it sometimes hard to forgive a person who has been mean to others? Are you a forgiving person?
Can you forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting your life? Why is it sometimes hard to forgive a person who has been mean to others? Are you a forgiving person?
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YUKI M
9/7/2010 04:55:40 pm
I can forgive every mistakes that affect me if it is not intentionally.
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Alena P
9/8/2010 07:09:25 am
For me really difficult forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting my life . In my life I try to be a perfect person who never do something wrong for other people. So when people answer bed on a good things it’s not my problem. I just finished my relations with that person.
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toan n
9/9/2010 06:05:43 am
I can forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting my life. I will forgive and forget intentionally or not intentionally mistake. But I got to let them know their mistake and give to them some advises. Next time they don’t do mistake again. My grandmother said me “human, whoever also have mistakes; big or small mistake. If you can forgive, you keep on forgive.” She also told me” if people hurt you, then you revenge back, I will get bad result”.“ you should make a friend, it’s better than you have more a enemy”. I always remember her words. I apply her lesson like a guideline in life. In fact I got an amazing result. I try to treat people around me friendly. They gave me good treat back. I’m happy with that. I know it’s sometimes hard to forgive a person who has been mean to others. For example, my girlfriend and I broke up two year ago. I was believe her, but she did some tricks and lie to me. She made me feel bitterness and resentment. Absolutely, we broke this relationship. It’s hard to forgive or forget right away. But I didn’t remember that pain for long time. I thought, I should forgive and forget. It obvious helps me felt better. Then I forgave to her, but I won’t back to her. We are friend now, and I don’t feel pain anymore. I realize, forgiving is accept forget any hurt. I’m a forgiving person because I don’t want any hurt to me or other person.
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Kim Nguyen
9/10/2010 02:00:31 am
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Ruslan Po
9/10/2010 06:58:54 am
To answer the first question about forgiving and forgetting someone for his or her mistakes, I think that I can do that. It is not always an easy thing to do. Sometimes forgiving and forgetting is easy, and there are others time when it seems impossible. For example, I think that it would be easy to forgive someone if what they did to you, was a pure accident. And a different thing can be said if it was done intentionally. Also, another point I want to bring out is that it is easier to forgive, but it is little bit harder to forget. Sometimes the event keeps replaying in your mind over and over again.
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ChangMin Han
9/10/2010 07:35:01 am
I’m not sure about forgiveness and forgetter, because sometimes I can forgive and forget someone or I can’t forgive and forget. So I think I don’t excuse a person for an inexcusable mistake, but I can excuse a friend for an excusable mistake. We know which sins are mortal and which are venial. So I just judge the situation. Anyway I never understand someone tell a lie. I hate liar. But I am difficult to understand about a white lie. By the way a white lie is lie. So I don’t like lies. I hard to forgive a person who has been mean to me. I am not a moral person; also I don’t have moral philosophy. Therefore I can’t forgive someone, because I am person too. I am an average man, so I often obtain someone’s pardon, or I am forgiven by someone. Rarely do I tell a lie for my friends. And I ask for my friend’s mercy, I beg my friends pardon for I did tell a lie. I always say to my friends “Please forgive me this once” or “I could never forgive myself”. Also I ever break a person’s promise, so I occasionally tell him “please forgive me for breaking the promise” Therefore 90% people forgive me. Also I have to speak the truth of myself. And if I sincerely apologize, 99% people generously forgive me. I am saying this from the bottom of my heart. In conclusion, I am sure about that forgive is normal and if you did wrong thing, you must speak to apologize blindly.
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Aynalem NI
9/10/2010 10:34:41 am
Can you forget someone for his or her mistake?
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Olga Tymoshenko
9/10/2010 03:01:36 pm
All of us people and do errors much. We remember ono errors,and others we forget.There are errors at friends and I have errors.I think if I remember errors of my friends.Iwill feel myself very badly.My opinion such that we forgot and was forgiven by errors,of the friends.So it is easier to live ,when we forgive errors of others.But sometimes we study on errors of other people.In your family we each other forgave all.My Grandmother learn to all to forgive you your errors.And to us it will be forgiven if we will forgive.I always learn also the children to forget and forgive to all people,because there is no person who would not be mistaken.I know that we should be indulgent the friend to the friend.Forgiving each other it is mutual. When people forget and forgive to another to them easily in a life and from it people are happier.When you forgive in heart there lives love.
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anaam jassim
9/11/2010 02:51:31 am
I’m always trying to forgive people and forget their mistakes, I mean all of us human beings and every one of us do mistakes in life, no one perfect, but the deal is how big is the mistake to be forgotten and forgiven from the person who did it.
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Bénédicte C.
9/11/2010 06:44:22 am
I forgive easily even if sometimes I would like be angry longer. I don’t succeed to be angry for a long time. We all make mistakes. I sometimes make mistakes. I forgive even more easily when the person did not make the mistake deliberately. I think I am a forgiving person. But if the person made a big mistake which affects a lot of my life, I don’t know if I can forgive and forget. Sometimes it’s no easy to forgive but you have to try to forgive because it’s the best thing to do. It’s not good to stay angry with someone. It’s easier if the person apologizes and regrets his acts, it’s always better if the two persons try to figure out what happened. From my point of view, don’t do to the others what you would not like that they do to you.
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Jenny Ma
9/11/2010 07:31:36 am
Can you forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake?
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Tatyana K.
9/11/2010 07:32:47 am
It is hard to forgive someone for the mistakes affecting your life. Most people would remember insults or bad deeds their whole life. Sometimes, it is difficult to forgive ourselves for our own mistakes. I can forgive some mistakes affecting my life, but after a decade, I forgot most of them. It is hard to forgive a person for their mistakes because if they affect your life then that can keep reminding you of their mistake. When it’s not your fault then it’s easy to keep a grudge on someone, and always think of “What could’ve been… ” I am a forgiving person because there is no use to not forgive that person, if mistakes happen, they happen, you can’t change it back. However that does not mean that you will fully trust that person anymore. Your perspective on people changes when they make mistakes. When I was younger, my sister and her friend read my diary and that was very hurtful, but as I think about it now, it is funny. People who are mean to others are not easy to forgive because that reflects their character. Especially since they are mean to others you do not want to be nice to them, you feel like they do not deserve to be respected. If someone is rude, then you basically want to be rude back. However my good manners do not let me do that, I try to forgive and forget as much as possible, that is what good people should do.
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natan demesse
9/11/2010 08:54:03 am
Do you forgive and forget somebody’s mistake? Are you a forgiving person?
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Gina G
8/28/2015 01:29:58 pm
Nate, Are you out there? I found a date of death for you and I have never let go. I only wish I knew what happened. I pray that the death I found was not actually yours. If you are out there, alive, please let me know.
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Vasylysa M.
9/11/2010 10:31:00 am
Every person in the world can make mistakes and sometimes many times in the day. People can hurt other people and not even say sorry.
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Nataliya No
9/11/2010 11:01:05 am
For me,sometimes it's easy to forgive somebody's mistakes,and sometimes it's very hard,but I always tried forget avery bad things in my life.In my opinion If I forgive the people mistake,they can forget my mistake,because all people can make many mistake.
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Tina Sh.
9/11/2010 03:45:39 pm
It is easy to forgive, if somebody just said something mean to you, or if someone deceived you, or gave you something bad. But what if somebody made really something valuable, something that changed your life or life of people close to you?
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Elvia E
9/12/2010 01:21:16 am
I do not thing anybody can live happy in to hold a grudge in his or her heart. And I also think it is unhealthy for your mind and body to be reminded what they did. But I think it is very difficult to forgive sombady and it is more difficult if that person was important to you,as a friend or something else. We all make mistakes sometimes you hurt people and sometimes people hurt you.But te real point is to forgive and forget the mistake and they will forgive you. I believe in karma , this means,"what goes around , comes around." It is very easy to say " I'm sorry". But it is easier to hurt somebody. We have to think before we talk or say bad things about a person, it is difficult, I know because we still speak without thinking.
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fatima hernandez
9/12/2010 02:08:16 am
In my opinion forgive is really easy to me. I am a person who doesn’t keep hard feelings. I know that forgive does who affects our lives sometimes is hard but I’ve always says that everyone makes mistakes in life. I been in the situation where I’m the one who needs to be forgiven, we always want the other person forgiveness. Also I been also the one that they ask for forgives , I know that sometimes they hurt us a lot to even think to give then forgiveness but it helps you to be a better person and feel good about yourself. Also when your judge of those who are being mean to other people is hard to watch and not say anything. In my situation I’m one of those persons who can’t watch someone being mean to someone, if I see an injustice thing happening I would say something , that’s when it is really hard for me to forgive injustice to others. I don’t really understand why people has to be mean to others because inside of you , you know that by acting this way or saying something mean is hurting the other person ,but we still do it. I am very patient and have a good heart I don’t keep hard feelings toward others. If I am meaning sometime I just start feeling bad and I just forgive the person or I can’t be mad to others for a long time. That’s why I think everyone deserves second chances when they really mean to be sorry.
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Mark Kh.
9/12/2010 06:35:35 am
I can forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting my life. But this is almost always very hard for me. Rather than holding a grudge and allowing it to thrive, I communicate my feelings to the one who has hurt me, especially if the person is close to me. Many people tend to keep things to themselves, and it makes them averse to communication. It is important to realize that conversation will allow the other person to offer an explanation for his or her hurtful behavior and help us overcome the same. Therefore, I do not shut down the lines of communication completely. Also I think only human to make mistakes and most of us don’t hurt others intentionally, for sadistic reasons. If we can accept this premise, forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier.
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Veronica C
9/12/2010 06:35:42 am
Can I forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting my life? This is a very good question with many good answers. I will say first, it depends what kind of situation it is. But to be more precise, I always forgive everybody and forget everything. I know it’s very hard and many times I feel so said and unhappy. I’m even asking myself so many why, so at the end it is better for me just live it and go on. And that’s because somebody told me something that he/her thought it’s something funny but for me is not, and I’m angry more on myself because I didn’t let that person to stop at certain time or let him/her known that I don’t like the things she/he told about me.
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Trang N
9/12/2010 06:42:46 am
Can you forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake? A simple answer, yes, I can. I understand that nobody is perfect. Everyone can make mistakes. We all do mistakes in our lives. Mistakes happen every time and at everywhere. In here, mistakes are understood as unintended actions. They can be oral words, they also can be normal accidents … even mistakes come from mean people, they all are excusable mistakes. Those kinds of mistakes should be forgot and forgiven. I remember one day I went to a temple for a big ceremony, a speaker talked about forgiveness. She had a good idea in her lecture on that day. She told us that we should forget and forgive the others because of our benefits. First, for us, why? Because when someone do something wrong to you, you feel bad, you get angry with her/him and then get sick since you keep it too long in your mind while he/she doesn’t care or doesn’t mention it. If another bad thing happens to you by the other, and you keep hold it, keep angry … and another unwilling happens to you again and again ,and you can’t forget it ,you still keep them in your mind. Day by day, your mind will be full of sadness and unhappiness because you are carrying a heavy “bag of angriness.”. When you pour out all contain of “bag of angriness”, you will have lovely life and you must be a happy person. Second, benefit for the one who made mistake. When he or she realizes that he or she has made mistakes to others and then he or was forgiven, those persons will be better themselves and they will become good persons. In contrast to excusable mistakes, there are some serious mistakes happening sometimes. Because of many different reasons, some people with their intention do something so bad to someone to affect to their lives. These kinds of mistakes are unforgettable and can’t be forgiven. In summary, it’s usually easy to forgive some mistakes but it’s difficult to forget them.
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Danyyil Myhovych
9/12/2010 07:39:46 am
I understand that forgiving and forgetting is necessary thing in life. Without this, life would be unbearable. Living through life I have had many experiences and learned it my life lessons either through my own mistakes or from another person’s.
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Veniamin Vi
9/12/2010 08:49:40 am
Today, I want to talk about the people who make mistake to the other people. Also I want to talk about people who make offend to the other people. When somebody makes the big mistakes, others make the small mistakes to other people. Also, often people take offence from the other people. However, the others do not take offence. And of course we must be careful with different people because sometimes we could not know whom we talk with especially when we meet this person at the first time. Now, there is a little about me. Usually, I try to forget my friends’ mistakes or my coworkers, classmates, and the other people errors. I have to do this because I am a Christian. I believe in Son of God Jesus Christ. He said, ’’If you forgive others the wrongs they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done.’’ Also I try to forget mistake because I do not want to lose my friends. Moreover, I like the people who never get mad. I want to be like those people. Also, most of the people could be happy if the try to forgive their relatives and friends. I think that I am a forgiving person. Also, I am not easily offended if somebody tries to make me upset.
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Serhiy Ve.
9/12/2010 08:53:28 am
Sometimes it is really difficult for me to forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting my life. There are a lot of things that easy to forgive and forget. Also, there are things that easier to forgive than to forget. But there are "unforgiveable" things that very difficult to forgive and forget. in my life. To forgive the "unforgiveable" has got to be one of the most difficult things I can do, but I believe that when I do not forgive I only hurt myself even more... It is hard but not impossible, something worth trying to become a better human and to be an example for those who looks up to me...
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Yelena Gr.
9/12/2010 09:12:11 am
" The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. "
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Armine Ga
9/12/2010 12:00:40 pm
It is very difficult to forgive and forget somebody's mistake if it is done by physically and emotionally. They are mistakes that cannot be forgiven in life. Some small mistakes you can easily forgive and forget. It is hard for me to say if I am a forgiving person or not. Everyone can make a mistake in anytime and anywhere. I do not forgive and forget somebody's mistake if it is done on purpose .For example When I graduated from medical school I found a job immediately. I worked there for a year. I needed to go to Russia to visit my sick relative. I really wanted to go because that person was really important to me. I purchased tickets without asking my manager for permission. I was really confident that my manager would see the situation and let me go. I decided to talk to him. He listened to me carefully and I explained how that person was important to me and my visit was necessary. I got shocked when he said no. He said that he can allow me to go after three months. I made a huge mistake by buying tickets. After two months my relative died. How can I forgive my manager’s mistake now? I am pretty sure that he had people to substitute me, but he didn’t allow me on purpose. I will never forgive and forget his mistake. Although my manager did not know that my relative was going to die. If he knew that my relative was going to die then I don’t know if he was going to let me go.
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Levon Na
9/12/2010 12:11:45 pm
Forgive and You’ll be Forgiven
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yoann d.
9/12/2010 12:42:38 pm
Every mistakes from someone can be hurt our life, but some are more hurting than others.
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Vachagan Da
9/12/2010 12:53:15 pm
I have two opinions about this topic. We are all humans and we make mistakes, whether big or small. We need to be forgiving against each other. I committed a lot of mistakes, but they forgave me. When I was a child I broke my neighbor’s car’s window. When I got caught he forgave me. I will never forget that event. I want to tell a story that occurred in my native country on September 11 2002. I had a grocery store. Early in the morning when I opened the store I saw something strange. When I approached the warehouse, I saw a hole on the roof. At first I was really shocked and didn’t know what was going on. Later I went to back to the store and noticed that the shelves were empty. I understood that robbers broke into the store and stole big amount of stuff. I stored a lot of stuff because of the coming holyday. I called the police immediately and they arrived after few minutes. They investigated that event and left. After one year I got a phone call and they said that they caught the robbers. Turns out to be that the robbers robbed other properties too, not just mine. I went to the court and saw the robbers. They were three teenagers. One of them recognized me and put his head down while I was staring at him. The judge asked me if I forgive them and I said yes because they were still very young. They thanked me and promised not to do any of that stuff.
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Lindsay F
9/12/2010 01:51:13 pm
Do you forgive and forget somebody’s mistake? Are you a forgiven person?
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Bekmuhamed Sa
9/12/2010 01:55:02 pm
Can you forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake?Are you a forgiving person?
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Olga Ca
9/12/2010 02:16:33 pm
I think that I am a forgiving person, I forget many things, because there has been many situations, that I had to forget. I loved someone very much, but made many errors with me, and with my family, that I love so much, had them go through so much pain. I had a lot of anger inside me. In time , I forget that person and told myself to think of the good memories and thoughts.It's better to forgive and try to forget, so it will make the person feel better. I also had friends that I met at school of adults about three years ago, and I considered them friends. Later on, I realized that weren't really good friends. I was wrong to trust them, they all back-stabbed me, so after that I decided to not have contact with them at all, and forgive and forget. I thought that was the best thing for me anyway. I didn't fight back, I just didn't want negative things around me.
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Lyudmyla Ya
9/12/2010 02:27:00 pm
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Minghi K
9/12/2010 02:28:14 pm
It might be easy to forgive someone for something that has little relation with us. But it truly is difficult to excuse something that has big impact on our lives.
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Paraskoviya M.
9/12/2010 02:36:33 pm
Yes, I can forgive and forget. It’s very important to forgive and forget people. Sometimes when insult is very big I need time for fix it. For example when I have argument with my husband I can’t to get mad to him, even if he is faulty I have discomfort inside. I always ask forgiveness even when it’s not my fault. It’s easy to live. I think it’s right. There is a lot of people which is hard them to forgive. Its bed, it affects our health. For instance, when I lived in my country we had one situation. One young woman got sick. She was principle of High School but before she got sick, she had big argument with her relatives. When she was in the hospital they came to visit her, but she didn’t want to see them. She said: “I’ll die but won’t forgive them”. After two month she died, it’s true. My opinion all people need to forgive and forget even doctors prove it. To be able to forgive and forget is the quality of strong people that have to learn. Those who do not want to forgive they are selfish they think that they are only human. In all disputes and quarrels are also to blame both sides. I believe that I was right the other thinks he's right. Only a judge can say who is right. So do not be judged severely, but must have respect for another person. Forgiveness is the key to success. If I want to be forgiven, I must forgive.
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Kevin H
9/12/2010 03:09:45 pm
Can you forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting your life? Why is it sometimes hard to forgive a person who has been mean to others? Are you a forgiving person?
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Galyna Sh
9/12/2010 03:56:17 pm
I think this is very hard to forgive people who are mean to you. When somebody is really mean to me, it really hurt my fillings, and sometimes it is really hard to forgive people. For example if you have a best friend and you told her all of your secrets and then you told her to don’t tell nobody anything, and she did. This would hurt my fillings so much. Sometimes it is really hard to forgive people because there are different kinds of mistakes people make, and its better to be nice to everyone so that way people is nice to you to. I am a forgiving person. We have to forgive everyone. It is sometimes hard to forgive, but I always forgive people, that are the good thing.
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Matvey Kh
9/12/2010 04:36:37 pm
Can you forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting your life? I never thought about this issue seriously. The first thing that comes to my mind is yes; I can forgive and forget someone. Maybe sometimes it's hard to do, but I am not holding the resentment toward others. Anyway, I just try to do it.
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Salam AB
9/12/2010 04:56:36 pm
Sometimes there are some mistakes come from people that you can't forget.Even if you are a forgiving person,or even if the people which the mistake comes from are really close to you.So it depends on what kind of mistakes you are hosting.There are many times when you have a hard time with someone you love or a friend you like who gives you a bad day,but in spite of how much this mistake hurts,you're going to forgive him because you have already gone through a worse times .So here is the other thing,you may forgive people not just because what they have done to you were not very harmful,but also because of the situation or the current circumstances that you live with.
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Tatyana San
9/17/2010 05:13:35 pm
I can’t hold inside insults for a long time, be angry on a person. Of all to begin, the human has a heart and felling. These make people different from animals. People have to use their hearts and feelings in all their live. For example, when I don’t forgive someone for his or her mistake I will full of angry emotions. My malice and negative ruins my inside world, my positive being, my good feelings. I can’t share with positive emotions, good moons to outside world. Life is a school with everyday lessons. It is important how do we go trough it, what we learn out of it, how we react. These all is what our future depends on. Everyone wants to have happy live. My mother thought me to act towards people how you want that people to act towards with you. One day, I can make mistake, and I will feel bed if people don’t forgive me. I want people to believe me that by mistakes I can be better. Everyone wants to have a chance be better.
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Valentina Sl.
9/18/2010 05:01:42 pm
Usually I can forgive and forget someone for his or her mistake affecting my life. I try to forget bad staff that people do for me, but sometimes it’s very hard for me. I think it is sometimes hard to forgive a person who has been mean to others because it is very hard for me to see other people sad. I really try to be forgivable, but when It is hard for me I try my best and I ask God to help me with it. When other people are picking on me or tell a lie about me it makes me sad but I can forgive.
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Marta DLR
9/19/2010 03:02:23 pm
Martha De Los Rios
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Marta DLR
9/19/2010 03:04:11 pm
Martha De Los Rios
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Valentina Sl.
9/19/2010 05:47:27 pm
Dear Professor Mary Selseleh, I am really sorry for sending unfinished essay. Please accept this one as final. Thank you.
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Iana N
10/1/2010 04:20:29 am
For me is not hard to forgive. I am very forgiving person. And I can not be mad on some one for a long time. Maybe I was not hurting very bad . I can not remember any person who hurt me and I still mad at him or her. Any ways, I do not thing that I can be mad on some one for very long time. Some times I want to be med on someone , but I always forget that the person hurt me. I thing, it is very good. If the person ,who hurt me, ask me to forgive him or her ,of curse I will forgive them. But the person has to realize, what he or she did wrong. Relatives and family usually can hurt you the most. Because you trust the most your family, and you can not even imagine that the people ,who you love the most can do or say something bad. It is a life, and life can not be easy. If you are forgiving person ,the life will be easier for you. Because, it is going to be so hard to live and always to remember that some one hurt you. Very often people get divorce because they can not forgive each other. Usually not only you will feel very bad, but people who around you are going to feel the same way. If every person know how to forgive, the world will be without wars and divorcees and people will live very happy.
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sodela lizeka
1/30/2015 08:23:55 am
Yes guyz im agree with you all
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Anitha
6/26/2015 01:38:45 am
thank u for every one who had posted comments about their experiences in their life. by reading all your comments i have learned a lot today and i have changed my opinion about forgiveness.
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